Monthly Archives: July 2018

You Are Not a Failure

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I am sure, I am not alone in saying, “I sometimes feel like a failure.” There are many reasons why you may feel like a failure. You may have recently been let go from work. You may have failed your finals in school. You may have bombed an important interview. Your boyfriend/girlfriend recently broke up with you. You may have been cheated on. You lost money on a business deal gone bad. You keep making the same mistakes over and over again. Life is just not working for you. You feel inadequate, unqualified, a failure. I want to remind you that you are not a failure. You may have gone through difficult times, but the difficulties do not define you. God placed you there for a reason. God does not make mistakes.


Do not allow the feelings of failure to debilitate you. Do not let the feelings of inadequacy leave functionally incapacitated.

  1. Refuse to believe the lie.

You may have done it, but you are not it. You are not defined by your failures. You are a child of God. “So, if the Son (Jesus) sets you free, you will be free indeed.” – John 8:36

 2. You are not alone.

The feelings of failure are indiscriminate. We all feel like failures, at some point. When you fall, do not stay down. You may be down, but you are not out. Rise! “For though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes.– Proverbs 24:16.

3. You have been forgiven.

You do not have to live in guilt. You are forgiven. You are a new creature in Christ. “But if we confess our sins to Him, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.” – I John 1:9

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” – 2 Corinthians 5:17


4. No condemnation

When you feel like a failure, feelings of condemnation abound. Stop playing the blame game. Stop overanalyzing your mistakes and shortcomings. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.” – Romans 8:1-2

5. His grace is sufficient

God provides enough grace to cover all your sins. When you are forgiven, God does not keep a remnant of your errors to hold above your head. He loves you enough to give all your shortcomings. His grace is enough for you. “But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9-10

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6. And this too, shall pass.

Nothing on earth is permanent. These feelings of failure. The problems and challenges of life are temporary. The sadness is for a brief moment. God will soon turn it all around. You will be walking in victory soon! Cheer up! Hope is at the end of the rope. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Don’t give up. Don’t give in. Hang on in there! “Weeping may endure for a night, But joy comes in the morning.” – Psalm 30:5

Are You Even Listening?


“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” – James 1:19

In any setting, any relationship, we must listen to each other. In leadership, it is stated that good leaders are good listeners. Leaders must listen to the donors, volunteers and staff. Organizations must listen carefully to their customers, employees, investors, communities, and other stakeholders. Churches must listen to God, to the congregation members, and to the community. The trouble is that we do not listen. We hear, but we do not listen. Someone once said, “You have 2 ears, and one mouth for a reason – listen twice as you speak.” In relationships, some of the fighting and arguments would cease if we learned to listen to each other. When you listen, you understand the other’s perspective.

Author Steve Covey stated, “Seek to understand before being understood.” We must strive to listen first, before we seek to be listened to.

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Hearing is the natural process of sound waves hitting the out and internal hearing organ – the EAR. Listening is an art. Most people are born with the ability to hear. We are not necessarily born with the skill of listening. Listening is more than hearing. You must develop your listening skills. “The word LISTEN contains the same letters as the word SILENT.” –Alfred Brendel


“When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving advice

You have not done what I have asked

When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I should not feel that way

You are trampling on my feelings

When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems

You have failed me strange as that may seem

Listen! All I asked was that you listen, not talk or do anything—just hear me

I can do for myself – I am not helpless

I may be discouraged and faltering- but not helpless

If you do things for me that I can, and need to do for myself, you contribute to my

Fear and weakness

But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational

Then I can quit trying to convince you and get about the business of understanding

What is behind the irrational feeling

When that is clear, the answers are obvious and I do not need advice

Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what is behind them

So, please listen and just hear me and, if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn and I’ll listen to you…” (Unknown)



Many people are looking for someone to listen to them. Ask God to remind you, and to help you be a good listener. Learn to practice the ministry of presence. Be there for someone wants your ear, your time, call or visit.

Have you heard from God, lately? Are you too busy, to distracted to listen to Him?

What has God been saying to you lately? How are you responding to His words?

Scriptures For Tough Times


Are you feeling stressed and overwhelmed? Are you losing hope, struggling to make ends meet? Does God seem far? Sometimes life is just plain difficult. I often go to these Scriptures for comfort and encouragement. These Scriptures can cheer you up, reinvigorate your passion, and instill hope. Take time to read and meditate on these verses through the day. Share them on social and with your friends.

Joshua 1:9, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”

Isaiah 41:10, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Isaiah 43:2, “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.”

Isaiah 40:31, “But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”

Proverbs 18:10, “The name of the LORD is a fortified tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.”

Psalm 31:24, “Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the LORD.”


Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

John 14:27, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

John 16:33, “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

Psalm 46:1-3, “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore, we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging.”

2 Timothy 1:7, “For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.”

Psalm 16:8, “I keep my eyes always on the LORD. With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken.

Psalm 55:22, “Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.”

1 Peter 5:7, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”

Isaiah 26:3, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”