“A friend loves at all times.” (NIV);  “A friend is always loyal.” (NLT)

As humans, we all need a friend who loves us at all times.  We all need a friend who loves us when we are unlovable; when we are at our worst.  As humans we all need a loyal friend.  We all need a friend who does not flip flop on us.  But, how many of us have friends like that?  Do you have a trustworthy, loving, loyal friend?  Better still, are you a trustworthy, loving, loyal friend?   If none, why is that?

Here are ways you can get and become a good friend:

1. Ask God to direct you to the right person. Ask God to help you be a good friend.
2. Take the risk. Get to know someone.  Know someone’s name.  Some of us do not have good friends because we do not venture out.
3. A good friend listens. Learn to listen to people.  Listen not just hear. When you are with people, be aware of their likes and dislikes.  Listen “between the lines.”
4. A good friend is there for others. Celebrate with your friend.  Remember and do something special on your friend’s birthday or anniversary.
5. Good friends befriend the entire family. One of family members once thought my friend Robbie was part of our family.  Robbie was always around for important family events.
6. A good friend is sensitive. A good friend looks out for the When no one else can understand you, your friend will.  Your fiend is one person who will walk up and say, “You are not you today. What’s going on?”
7. Most of us have friends we last talked with years ago. Good friends stay in touch.  These days, we can utilize various channels of communication that are available.  You can keep in touch in person, by phone, handwritten letter, Facebook, Facetime, text, Skype, and so forth.
9. I always think generalized compliments are as good as no compliments at all. It is always best to specifically express what you like about your relationship with your friend. What is it that makes your friendship tick?
10. When thinking of ministering to your friend – be creative and thoughtful. It does not always have to cost money.
11. Rekindle your old friendships. I dare you to reach out to those uncultivated, dying friendships.
12. Have friends who help you carry your burdens. Carry burdens for your friends.
13. Keep each other accountable. Develop your relationship so much that you can speak life into each other’s life.  Learn to receive encouragement and honest feedback from your friend.  Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Your friend is one person you can trust to watch your back, to point out your blind spots, and stand with you at all times.

Who is your friend?

When the going gets tough, do you have someone who will stand with you?

To have a good friend, you need to be a good friend.  What are you doing to cultivate good friendships?